I think it's pretty sad that I've never kissed a girl goodnight or made out, sober, after an actual date.

The majority of my first kisses/encounters have occurred after knowing the person pretty well, crashing at each other's apartment, and/or after a drunk night out.

And no first kiss with a random (i.e., on the dance floor) has ever happened sober.

Maybe do the hug/kiss on the cheek combo, but don't go all out for the deep kiss.

While this kind of move can certainly seal the deal, it can also rock the boat a little too much too soon.

Now, I have exactly one argument in favor of kissing a girl goodnight on the first date: It shows a girl you like her and if she feels the same way, things might take off from there.

But here are the many reasons I refrain from kissing a girl goodnight on the first date or dates early on in the relationship: I haven't done the drunk kiss on the dance floor in a long time.

If we don't share a history together, usually a kiss is a meaningless or empty experience.

Sure, a kiss feels great, but it's not worth going for it with people that I'm not connected to because I don't know them well.And if I'm on a date with a friend, trying to turn it into a relationship, we still aren't used to being together on that level.Because of my policy of making 110% sure that a woman wants physical contact with me, I rarely try anything too fast.Sometimes this comes back to haunt me, because women think I'm not interested.But I'd be so embarrassed if I went in for a kiss and she shied away or put up a "stop" sign with her hand...awkward! You certainly have the right to not see that person again if you decide against it, but you can never take back that kiss if you did it in the heat of the moment.Usually the "first-date kiss goodnight" has to be done out in the open.

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