Still, - it's just flirting, so you never really know for sure. or, in the older man's case, even more likely, "dirty." But not all older men interested in younger women fit the "ordinary" bill.

A few months later, the CAPT and that same colleague traveled to Pennsylvania for a conference, and the colleague reported how at dinner on our last night in town, he'd watched CAPT mesmerize an attractive, buxom waitress in her mid-20s, who, at the end of the dinner, slipped him her phone number and told him to get in touch the next time he was in town. I've talked with older man / younger woman couples in America, Europe, and Asia - couples where there's an age gap of 10 to 15 years - and have seen similar trends across the board. In fact, the ones I meet are relatively to quite attractive.

Neither are the men loaded with wads of cash, used to ensnare shark-like women who only want them for their trust funds.

This was true with all the couples except for the gold digger couples (and I have met some); often in these cases, the mothers wholeheartedly endorsed the union, because that was what the mother had trained the daughter to do ("Find a rich man to marry - older men are more likely to be rich, and more likely to be looking to settle down - so find an older, rich man and marry him").

A research paper looking examining older man / younger woman couplings in Kenya provides typical results (mainly focused on sexual relationships here): The aim of this study is to contribute to the understanding of motivations for cross-generational relationships and how the perception of risk of acquiring sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including HIV affects condom use in Kenya.

Eight focus-group discussions were conducted with women and 28 interviews were held with men in four Kenyan towns.

This is Part I of a 2-part series on dating younger women.

In Part I, we'll be focused on social factors that have changed and why there's so much pushback against older men dating younger women in the West.

Part II will be our "how-to" - that is, how to date younger women as an older (or younger) man. younger man / older woman couplings, you'll frequently be told, are a Bad Thing.

But travel the rest of the world, and this stigma is largely nonexistent.

Throughout history, it's been common for older men to select younger women as their brides, across cultures, nearly universally.

It would appear we live in a strange and rather unusual period in history, where sexual norms have been turned upside down and positioned on their heads. Certainly, it's a common-enough argument - it's plastered all over the West right now. There ARE plenty of older men who successfully date younger women. What the people pushing the "older men CAN'T get younger women...

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