Pew internet and american life project online dating
We are living in a time of great transition for digital romance.
A new study from the Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life Project, released Monday, found that 59 percent of American Internet users believe that “online dating is a good way to meet people,” a 14-point jump since 2005.
Among Americans who identify themselves as “single and looking,” 38 percent say they’ve used a dating site or app to try to meet a match.
These sites still situate online dating as a meat market for semi-anonymous singles that’s disconnected from the rest of our online (and offline) identities.
Our online dating profiles are typically not linked to our other public profiles, like Facebook and Twitter.
And the sites' matching strategies—which connect users based on questions they’ve answered about themselves—rely on a primitive idea of the interplay between digital technologies and human relationships.
They assume that we can just plug our metadata into a computer, run it through an algorithm, scroll through a list of prospects sorted by the mathematical possibility that we'll get along, and find someone.
That’s just not how human relationships work—not on the Internet and not off.
That’s particularly true for the 54 percent of online daters who have encountered a match they felt “seriously misrepresented themselves in their profile.” We all know that the Internet can be a powerful tool for connecting people, so why do these sites still carry some stigma?Perhaps because the best connections, online and off, are made more holistically in the context of our everyday lives.This explains the success of Tinder, the hookup app that enables daters to assess photographs of other singletons in their general area, then right-swipe with their index finger when they like what they see.Tinder requires users to login through Facebook, which unfortunately only increases Mark Zuckerberg's creeping command over all online spaces.But it fortunately means that the dudes and ladies you’re meeting through the app are representing themselves roughly similarly to how they’re doing so on more public forms of social media.(Perhaps Zuckerberg was onto something with Facematch, the proto-Facebook that allowed Harvard students to check out potential hookups living in neighboring houses.) It helps that, in order to message someone on Tinder, you both have to “choose” each other, so you’re not inundated with missives from the creepiest users.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating