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Back in late April-ish, my Facebook wall was bombarded by several of my loved ones who posted a call for HIV-positive models to participate in a new project that Jack Mackenroth, the HIV positive gay man of Project Runway fame and with a boogina that makes me think of sin and putting on a bib. ummm, 1) I am not a model; 2) You are asking me to send half naked pictures, sober, not on a sex site, with the possibility that I could end up half naked on a website for the entire world to see; and 3) Do you EVEN know me? He was looking for HIV positive models, and my first response to my friends was ... Anywho, several of my friends encouraged me to send Jack some of my pictures for this project.
Rejection, which is a main component of the impact of stigma on people living with HIV, becomes more than just a "shitty" moment for those of us living with the red rider.
Rejection becomes the default for many of our interactions with folks in the community in whom we may have interest.
Show me a poz man who hasn't experienced at at least half a dozen instances of shocking and hurtful ignorance when disclosing his status, and I will show you the magical leprechaun that I keep chained in my pantry making Lucky Charms whenever I have a hankering. while I have a healthy and sometimes overly healthy ego, the one place that breaks down is around my body, but ... I thought, "what the hell," and I sent the pictures along.
So imagine, then, submitting your pictures to a famous stud with no body fat and asking him to MAKE a judgment on your attractiveness. Nothing special, just some shots I took with Photo Booth on my Mac.
I don't think it even took five minutes for Jack to respond booking me for the shoot.
Besides my ego there was a very specific reason that I made the choice to submit my photos.
The project Jack was working on was a well developed, sexy, fun dating and hook up site and app for HIV-positive queer men.
In the light of my personal and political work over the last year or so, and recalling the times when I failed to disclose and the shame, guilt and holy hell that created, I decided to put my own body image shit aside to be a part of this project. holding up and recognizing that HIV-positive people GET to be sexual beings, GET to be human, GET to be loved, GET to objects of desire and GET to look in the mirror and feel wanted. unlike any other communicable and potential life threatening disease (HPV, Hepatitis C and so many others) HIV is the ONLY one that is criminalized, and it is the only one where all of the public health strategies are aimed at one thing: stopping HIV-positive people from having sex or putting so much fear and shame into positive folks that they have sex rarely and furtively.
A hook up site with financial backing that is aimed at eliminating stigma and supporting the HIV-positive community ... You see, it's a rare HIV-positive person who doesn't get their diagnosis and spend a little time or the rest of their lives reduced to their disease. Well, we all know just how much that has worked out.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating