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Brad Blanton calls the "most pernicious form of lying."So many guys are busy complaining to their friends privately about women they browse or even meet off these sites but they rarely tell the women their harsh critiques directly.
I love to hear what people are actually thinking and saying rather than being politely indulged. More than that and it gives off a vibe akin to 'yes, a man would be nice, but he will never be as important as my dog.' Entirely rational? But 4-5 pics, all with the dog, a bit much to a lot of men.
Which led me to decide, why not share the wealth of what men are really, truly, brutally thinking with the rest of the world? Also, when I'm looking at someone's profile and they're laughing insanely in every photo, my guess is they're probably profoundly sad.
To assist in creating a more open discussion (or maybe just out of a sick sense of curiosity), I've asked hundreds of guys from these sites to share with me their most straight-up advice that they would never want to tell a woman to her face, and I've collected the most memorable 15 reactions I received. Whereas when a girl looks melancholic or lonely, that can be quite attractive."15. It takes over four hours to go through the human digestive tract so by the time you're ready to tweet to all your friends what a dish/disaster your date is, the main distraction to real human communication will have been hidden."So..do you think of all these BRUTALLY HONEST responses?
Please realize: I'm not endorsing ANY of these critiques or bits of advice or the wording. But they're also honest, which counts for something, I think. Don't find a new Tinder date while you're meeting a Tinder date in real life.
Are many of these responses filled with a fairly depressing amount of body obsession (to say the least)? In the interest of the truth, I wanted to present them here in all of their unfiltered glory. Making assertions about yourself in your profile demonstrates low emotional intelligence in my opinion. Although when a woman is the first one to initiate conversation, I always get, ' Hi, how was your day?
Think of it as overhearing a bunch of secret (and at times very superficial and obnoxious) conversations at a bar. "A first date shouldn't be a fucking marriage interview."2. So if you want lots of responses, pictures demonstrating tits or ass will do more for your response rate than anything else you could possibly do. Describing yourself as attractive, smart or fun is not useful. "Please post more than one crisp clear recent realistic shot of your face and physique so that I know beforehand what you look like so I don't need to be surprised on date night and re-evaluate why I'm there. "Having a page full of perfect head shots looking your best is kind of the female equivalent of me having all shirtless pics on mine.
You might not think these guys are saints, but it's a fascinating eavesdrop to say the least. Stop catfishing and expecting Tinder not to be Tinder. "As much as I like yoga and traveling, it seems like every woman is a super yogi and a world traveler. Be proud of what you look like and attract someone who likes your type."6. "If somebody doesn't like or respect you after fucking you on the first date, waiting three more dates isn't going to help."7. "In terms of what you look like, men really only care about tits or ass. Many women will stipulate that, ' I don't want the kind of guy who responds to tits or ass,' but that is a poor strategy because you have just excluded all men. The point is to *demonstrate* that you are attractive (with pics), smart and fun (with words). If I could only get back all the wasted driving time, fake polite time and money from dates that should have never happened because my date cyber-lied about their appearance.10. "I don't need to see five pictures of your dog/cat/cactus. Yes some women have done this, and it always comes off as tacky. I feel like you're selling me something you think I may want instead of you."12. "Don't use pictures with multiple people in them without pointing out who you are. It makes it seem as if you aren't confident in your figure or you don't want the guy to know what you look like.
"Having a realistic picture that looks like how you actually look is number one. "People are looking for social equals and perceived beauty. Usually it's some pseudo spiritual 'eat pray love' bullshit that does not exude intelligence or thoughtfulness but makes me think the woman is too lazy or inept to speak for herself. If you can't help but describe yourself, at least, for every self-descriptor, ask yourself, does this apply to every person in the world? I don't care if you're divorced or if you look beautiful in the pic. Don't play games and waste your time as well as the guy's.
When I joined Hinge, I assumed there would be some overselling online, but I would say at least 7 out of 10 people use misleading pics. Don't get self-righteous in your statement saying, ' If you're into hookups, swipe left.' If you're looking for a soulmate, try e Harmony. I lose interest if someone isn't actually talking to me. To me, slow replies and uncertain availability to meet = bad.
Oh, and please, more inspirational quotes from Marilyn Monroe.
Also, if you're going to post pics from 5 years ago, then I'll find some when I had more hair."3.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating