Signs he is serious dating
It may seem simple, but it's incredibly effective if you're prepared to really listen to his answer."On a first date, a guy's gonna basically say, ' I don't believe in love' or ' I'll never get married,'" says Frances.
In other words, it's his most honest moment, and the time for you to ask questions and take the answers at face value *Curveball #1: The guy who texts you nonstop, way too soon.*It's good if a guy isn't afraid to get in touch, but if he launches into constant contact before you've even been on a date, it's a bad sign.
"This guy's going to go into a full-court press right away.
If this happens as soon as you exchange numbers on a dating app, before you've even had a single date, then you'll know he's just buttering you up for sex.
"He will start creating a romantic fantasy via text that will allow you to feel like you're more romantically connected than he's earned by actually taking you out on dates.
By the time he sees you, you feel like you've already been dating for three weeks.
It's not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's seriously into you and one who's wrapped up in the moment. Lust is a powerful thing, and some men will do just about anything in the sweet spot between "nice to meet you" and "sex." Closing the gap between point A and B can be a goal some men pursue with the same vigor as Roger Federer practicing for, playing in, and attempting to win Wimbledon, for example.
They may get carried away and act like you're the be-all and end-all, only to lose interest or show their true colors as soon as you sleep together.
If you're just looking for sex, then carry on, but if not, how can you tell if a guy is really right for the long-term?
Lauren Frances is one of my favorite relationship experts, and she happens to focus on these particular struggles in her books and one-on-one coaching.
In fact, she's known for helping women weed out the wrong men right on the first date.
In order to do that, she devised a way to tell whether a guy wants the same things as you, which should be the foundation of any long-term relationship (we discussed it here on Smitten a few years ago). Raise your hand if you ever fudged the facts in your mind because you really wanted to see things through rose-colored glasses with a promising guy [raises hand! Well, the fudging-of-facts bit carries on throughout a relationship, sometimes keeping us committed to the wrong guy for months (or years).Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating