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I recently wrote a post about Face Time sex for Gizmodo, which I highly recommend that you check out on their site.

I just never thought I’d feel all googly-eyed and longing .

But that was before Face Time, the i Phone 4 video chat that rivals all others.

I’ve come to believe that Face Time – as it is now, and with a few hopeful tweaks in future generations, is a boost we all need in love and in sex. Each new i Phone, and the i Pad, has changed the possibilities for dating, flirtation, and sex. It took Face Time to radically change the way we share the world, and our lives, with our partners. I think it pre-emptively broke up with me to save us both the pain of me one day choosing the i Phone 4 over its video-less, Face Time-less self. Given the screen size limitations of phones, Face Time will never allow for us to see each other with our eyes and faces (or naked penises) as large, or as small, as life (that’s for video computer chat).

Of course, the i Phone isn’t just a phone (especially if you live in a high dropped call zone). But the incredible camera quality lends itself to gazing, to intimacy, to the beseeching ways we look into each other’s eyes.

It’s a fragile rectangular alternative universe where my fingers reveal email and text communications, music to sing to and weather alerts to dress by. In this way, Face Time is better than phone calls and clickety-clack IMs.

To pretend anything else is silly – it’s like saying a first kiss is just a kiss, when we all know it’s magic. It’s superior, too, to computer video chats in which looking at your loved one on-screen means you’re not looking at the camera, and thus your gaze is always a little off, somewhere in the distance. On a Face Date, I realized that Face Time improves both types of gazing that scientists (like me) and lovers (like all of us) know to be important to love and lust.

The fact that I could read emails, take and send photos, and play with apps on my i Phone 3G was good enough for me. I told myself that I was happy with my 3G and didn’t need Face Time. Its front-facing camera lets you get lost in each other’s eyes, but the back-facing camera that you can flip to allows for you and your chat partner to look out at the world together – to watch the same sunset, the same crazy dog running around the floor, or the same sleepy child drifting off to sleep.

But then the i Phone 4 came along with its fancy Face Time and it was like meeting someone you know you’re meant to be with, even though you’re already in a relationship. Face Time lets you share your life, and its meaning-filled moments, with the people you want to share them with, and with more clarity than I first guessed. Here is what we still need from Face Time – or a competitor: Bottom line: there is no phone feature that can do more for love or sex than Face Time.

This is so much better than what we used to have at our fingertips. I carried my Mac Book around in my arms, room by room and into the backyard. It’s more connecting than computer chats and sexier, and less clunky, than taking a laptop (or a Fleshlight) to bed.

Last summer, when I moved to a new house, my niece video chatted me on my laptop and I offered her a tour of my place. I kept peeking around at the screen to make sure I didn’t accidentally aim at the floor or ceiling. Simply put: if you cannot be together, I hope you each have an i Phone 4.

This year, we gave a Face Time tour to my partner’s cousins and we did what was unimaginable just last summer: we used my i Phone 4 and pressed the little camera button that directs Face Time to switch cameras and gave a house tour.

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